Regrets

I have many regrets. I can remember specific moments in my life when I wish I had acted differently - when I wish I stood up for a friend, been kinder to a stranger, or just believed in myself a bit more. My mother, however, doesn't believe in having regrets, as she claims to have learnt something from every missed opportunity or poor decision made. While I sincerely believe in hindsight being twenty-twenty, there are some things that I make a priority so that I don't repeat the same sort of mistakes. They are simple, easy actions to take that might help when you just can't make up your mind. Remember: when in doubt, simplify, and listen to the part of you that knows that you are the one who has to live with your decision. So here are a couple of ideas for avoiding having regrets down the line:

1. If you get the chance or have the inclination to travel, do it. I recommend Budget Travel magazine.
2. Don't let fashion magazines dictate your style.

3. Be as kind to strangers as possible.
4. Say thank you whenever you get chance.
5. Don't diss your parents in front of people.
6. Stop worrying about the test/exam/paper after it's done.
7. Communicate your feelings, you have the right to make yourself heard.
8. Don't spend time with people who only talk about themselves.
9. Never anticipate that everyone will agree with you.
10. Be nicer to your sibling(s) and cousin(s), they're the ones you have representing your family in the future...and you'll also be forced to spend time with them, so you may as well have them on your side.
11. Don't categorize yourself. You're more than a "nerd" or a "jock".

12. Make plans regarding transportation beforehand.
13. Drink more water.
14. You don't have anything to prove (just because you're a runner, does not mean you have to run a marathon to be considered "hardcore").
15. Just because you ask for advice, does not mean that you have to take it.
16. Clean out your closet every season and donate what you don't want anymore. Less clutter and good vibes for giving to those less fortunate.

17. Lend a hand whenever you can, unsolicited help is always appreciated.
18. Stand up for your friends and family, they make you happy and they deserve your respect (and the respect of others).
19. Go home when you're tired.
20. Put in just a little more effort than you originally intended.
21. Don't wait by the phone and make a point of calling someone if you say you will.
22. Don't make apologies for what makes you happy.
23. Sometimes make a point of going out of your way to help someone.
24. Do not cancel plans at the last minute - it makes you look like a flake.
25. Don't make impulsive solutions. Think before you act.

The value is tremendous, the cost is nothing.

So often we focus on the cost of what we want that we lose sight of the value. 

But how remarkable is it that you can walk outside, look at the clouds, and actively recognize that you are a part of the universe. You are one of billions, true, but here's an idea to put you at home in your body when you feel like you're just a hamster on a wheel.

1. Do as the picture above says, go outside

2. Squeeze your shoulders up to your ears and then release (repeat five times - or hey, go nuts, it's surprisingly soothing, so keep going if you want to)

3. Take fifteen deep breaths 

4. Rub your ear lobes and smile

5. Go back inside and call or text or email someone who you haven't spoken to in a while just to say hi, how are you, I don't want you to forget that I'm here for you

This is one (entirely free) way to feel more connected to the universe. 

The value is tremendous, the cost is nothing.